no one falls in love by choice.
it is by chance. no one stays in love
by chance. it is by work. no one falls
out of love by chance. it is by choice.

in the end. it.s still best to wait
for the one we want rather than
settle for what is available. it is
still best to wait for the one you love
rather than settle for the one who is
around. it.s still best to wait for the 
right person because life is too short 
to waste on the wrong one.

in your life you meet people.
some you never think about again.
some you wonder what happened to them.
there are some that you wonder if they
ever think about you. then there are
some you wish you never had to think
about again. but you do.

  
  

the title of this article is fully
credited to erich segal who wrote the
phenomenal movie love story back in
nineteen seventy. since that time. i 
have always wondered what that statement
truly meant. now thirty four years later
i understand. 

true love is unconditional. it is
transparent where we can accept.
understand and allow the other person
to make every mistake. falter. stumble
and give genuine heartfelt compassion
when they are trying their best even if
their best can be better.

love carries no judgment or manipulation.
love carries no ego or the need for ego
gratification. true love is pure. it is
deep. eternal and it never dies.

there may come a time when you have to be
apart from someone you truly love in your
heart. please realize that sometimes time
alone is the greatest gift you can give to
another.

sometimes our ego.s want more and sometimes
our ego.s avoid love. these are the ego.s
delusions. they are not. however. the pure
love that resides within our deepest heart
and soul.

i learned that forgiveness can be replaced
with compassionate understanding. when we
truly understand. there is not an ego need
for a formal apology. when we love purely
there is not an ego need. period. there is
only compassion and understanding.

what we want and deserve may come from both
ego and self value. certainly we all deserve
pure love. however. to receive it. we have
to first learn how to give it. first to
ourselves and then to another. 

never having to say you.re sorry means that
you know you are loved truly for who you
are. you are accepted. in order to give this
kind of love to someone else. we first have
to love and accept ourselves with the utmost
loving compassion. understanding and carry
zero self judgment. as we peel the layers of
ego away along with self protective walls.
egoic responses and manipulation of self to
be what we think we need to be in order to
be loved and accepted. it is then that we
can love someone else purely. this takes
great conscious effort and the desire to
grow to become so pure and heart centered.
that the ego melts away.

when this happens. we know we are loved by
self in the most genuine manner and then we
will also know that we are ready to give
such a pure. unconditional love to someone
else.

we can understand mistakes. we can
understand growth. we can understand time
spent apart means that time is needed in
order to grow.

when you love someone you know in your heart
that your love never died. you feel their
presence in your heart even if they are out
of your life. sometimes we may not always
get what we want in life. however. we will
always get what we need in order to grow. we
may not consciously ask for certain
situations but on a soul level we brought
them into our lives in order to heal. grow
and learn what pure love is truly all about.

can you understand that you have always done
the best job you knew how to do at any
particular time with the knowledge and level
of growth you had at that time? yes? good.
now you can extend that same understanding
to the other person from your heart and that
is why you will not require them to say. i.m
sorry. you will understand and they will
understand. it is that pure understanding
that allows what may have bruised our ego to
melt away. once our fears and ego are out of
the way we truly can love purely. you will
never have to say you.re sorry to someone
you truly love that genuinely loves you. you
will only have to be yourself. that is all
you will ever need to do.
      --BARBARA ROSE